#BlackFathersWeek | Purpose: Fathers Are Rocks to Hold Onto

#BlackFathersWeek has explored in large context what fatherhood means to Black men, and for Black manhood. But today’s father, Marc Joseph, shows us how one small moment watching someone else be a father illustrated to him his own purpose in his daughters’ lives.

“The little girl to the right was crying her eyes out in sheer terror. She was afraid beyond your regular passenger jitters. She was terrified. Her dad seated to her left grabbed her hand and held on to it.

This was the purpose of fatherhood in one small gesture.”

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#BlackFathersWeek | Fatherhood Made Me “Be the Man I Wanted My Sons To Become”

Today is the fifth installment of #BlackFathersWeek at Truly Tafakari, where Black men have the floor to define and celebrate fatherhood for themselves, without filter. I asked three brothers to give me their perspectives on what their children have taught them. Their answers might surprise you.

“I became a father before I knew the true definition of what it meant to be a man. My father was active in my life and I had a great example but we all make our own way.
I came of age and developed into my manhood while at war. However, that was definitely not the place to learn how to connect with my sons. Actually I had to unlearn some of that behavior.

Being a father has made me a man; with flaws, but a man nonetheless because I see those flaws as opportunities for learning and growth. “

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#BlackFathersWeek | I wasn’t ready to be a father, but refused to fail

It’s the fourth installment of #BlackFathersWeek at Truly Tafakari, where Black men tell us their truths about being good fathers. Our guest blogger for today is football coach Daniel Seahorn, sharing what it means to sacrifice a dream for family and still win.

I often think back to the times prior to my daughter Zoe making her big arrival, and the question I got the most was if I was ready to be a father. Well, the answer was no, but I had no choice but to be ready when the time came because I absolutely refused to be a failure as a father. At the time I had just taken a job I had always wanted (coaching football), but it required me to be over a thousand miles away from my then-pregnant girlfriend and my daughter, who I had yet to meet.

I was between a rock and a hard place.

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#BlackFathersWeek | From Brother to Brother: 7 Impending Fatherhood Lessons for Black Men

Today is the third installment of #BlackFathersWeek at Truly Tafakari, where Black men have the floor to define and celebrate fatherhood for themselves, without filter. Our guest blogger for today is @DarrkGable, a writer and father with words of wisdom for brothers who are expecting their first child.

“I didn’t have an older brother to “give me the real” about how life was going to inevitably change after fatherhood. Some days you’ll want to throw stuff (and people). Other days you’ll wonder how you could be so blessed. It’s all part of the journey of having a family. Your outlook on life will play a big part in how you view the days. Just know that at the end of them, you can only do what’s in your power to.”

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#BlackFathersWeek | From Hot Curling Irons to 5th Grade Crushes, It’s All Love

Today is the second installment of #BlackFathersWeek at Truly Tafakari, where Black men sound off on what fatherhood means in their lives. Our guest blogger for today is Mark A. Sequeira, a physicist and single father of two who handles everything from hot curling irons to 5th grade crushes.

Fatherhood seems abstract. Abstract in that it is difficult to define. Abstract in that it encompasses countless characterizations, many of which are abstractions themselves. As a mathematician and physicist, I live in abstractions. It seems, however, that my abstract theories on fatherhood would be best represented by simple, real examples…stories. So, I’ll tell two stories, one for each of my children.

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#BlackFathersWeek | Daughters are NOT punishment for fathers: rethinking the stigma

In ancient times, a woman was said to be cursed if she was barren. Unable to have children. The male equivalent? Unable to produce boys. The thought process was that not being able to have children was the woman’s fault. However, not being able to have male children was the man’s fault. Ridiculous, right? *shrugging shoulders*

Now…just to clarify, it’s cool to have a daughter. You just want to make sure she’s not the oldest. More than one girl? No problem…as long as you have more girls than boys (equal amounts are permitted). There are rules and levels to this. However, for men like myself who find themselves staring into the faces of two beautiful young ladies…I’m a lost cause. Either a.) I’m not man enough to produce sons or b.) GOD is punishing me for previous (mis)dealings with women.

Yeah, the struggle is “realer” than you know.

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A Brief Explanation of Deez Nuts for Ya Mama

The other day, quite innocently, my mama posted on Facebook:
“Who the heck is Deez Nuts??”

My brothers and my sisters, I bust a gut laughing. I imagined her asking herself if Deez Nuts were macadamia, Brazil, cashews, or even pistachios, because my mama likes quality. And then I scrolled on by until a friend tagged me, “Get your mama!” By then more of our mutual Facebook friends had seen the post. I couldn’t leave my mama hanging with Deez Nuts. I politely explained Deez Nuts to my mama and she realized that she got got. Which, of course, has always been the entire point of Deez Nuts.

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