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Why Dear White People Made Me Uncomfortable

Dear White People and the cast of “militant” Black characters tell painful truths I’ve been too afraid to say about race. Oh, sure, I write about race and racism all the time; the tagline of this blog is Life + Race + Culture, right? But by and large, I approach race from a theoretical standpoint. I say “white supremacists.” I say “racists.” But I have long been too indirect to come out and tell White people, the identifiable White people in my life, when they overstep. For me, Dear White People presents the question: What if I confronted the White people I know (and love) with the instances in which they make me feel angry, Othered?

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32 Things You Can Do to Turn Up On My Birthday

On this day, 32 years ago, my mama gave birth to a 3-lb, 11 oz brown dumpling of a baby girl. I came out full-term but I wasn’t fully baked. Doctors stuck me underneath an incubator for a few more days, and I have never quite given up my predilection for warmth and sunlight since. Because I’m so small, I celebrate my birthdays loudly…you will deal.

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What I Tell Myself When I Think of Quitting

I am a wife, a mother, a full-time employee, a part-time freelancer, and these are all choices that I made for myself. Sometimes I get tired.  But I have to remind myself that’s okay. It’s okay to feel good about the paths I took to arrive here and admit that it’s still not easy. Adulthood, […]

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Slanging: #BlackTwitter Cool is a White Marketing Tool

If imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, then Black people should feel like the most flattered demographic in America. Black culture is where White America goes shopping for Halloween and “slumming” to sow its wild oats. This appropriation extends to marketers looking for inroads into a community whose buying power is touted but whose lives are dispensable. Well, I, for one, am tired of Black culture carelessly being used to market any and everything, especially to Black people. Black culture–or any subsection thereof–is often a punchline in the hands of White people who consume culture without investing in or producing it.

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7 Fabulous Black Women Web Designers I Love

Web design is a very White, male space (as are most things tech-related). If you want to support tech professionals who are neither male nor White, you have to be very deliberate about it. So how do you find Black women web designers? It can be a struggle locating creative Black women within this tiny sphere where women are already hard to find. Until I started deliberately looking, I couldn’t name any Black women web designers after months of perusing. And even with Google those names are no picnic to unearth. With all the above said, I challenged myself to find Black women web designers whose work I admired. Why? I never need a reason to love on Black women; I am one.

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