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Thoughts on Waiting for a Non-indictment of Darren Wilson

At this point, we know Darren Wilson won’t be indicted for the murder of Michael Brown. Everything points to it: Governor Jay Nixon called for a State of Emergency today; he held a press conference last week warning “protesters” that violence would not be tolerated; the police has leaked strategic “evidence” claiming to position Brown as the aggressor. Darren Wilson is going to walk. Literally.

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Why I Can’t Stop Gushing About Solange’s Wedding Photos

Forget Kim Kardashian. Solange Knowles (Ferguson?) broke the Internet on Sunday in a good way for every #CarefreeBlackGirl in the world. Now ya’ll know I don’t usually go gaga over celebrities. I’m only somewhat of a Solange fan, having bought her Solange and the Hadley Street Dreams album a few years back. But the photos (taken by Rog Walker) released from her November 16 wedding to video director Alan Ferguson are AH-MAZING.

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Is It Okay My Black Child Has No White Friends?

My daughter loves White people. Or, rather, she is a tiny human being who loves every person she meets, including White folks. She especially likes to walk over to the nearest toddler in the vicinity and personally give them a hug. (Awkward for parents;, cute for kids). She is friendly, but I realized the other day that Bean doesn’t actually have any nameable White friends.

And that’s chiefly her parents’ fault.

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Drinking Delusion with My Pumpkin Spice Latte

Can you recall the disappointment you felt the first time you realized that a fat White man did not in fact sausage himself down a nasty chimney for your Black behind? Hold that disgust in your mouth for a moment. That is the precise feeling I experienced when I learned that all the pumpkin spice items for sale right now…don’t actually contain any pumpkin. I was floored.

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Read This Before You Write Your Next Thinkpiece

I have been trying to write about the hit sitcom Black-ish for weeks. Three weeks, to be exact. Every time I look up at the calendar, it’s Wednesday again and I have not posted anything anywhere about the show. But I have about 1,200 words written on it. And all 1,200 of those words stink. Last week, something new and unheard-of occurred to me: I don’t actually have to write about the show. Sometimes, the best thing you can do with your think piece is never publish it.

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Why Dear White People Made Me Uncomfortable

Dear White People and the cast of “militant” Black characters tell painful truths I’ve been too afraid to say about race. Oh, sure, I write about race and racism all the time; the tagline of this blog is Life + Race + Culture, right? But by and large, I approach race from a theoretical standpoint. I say “white supremacists.” I say “racists.” But I have long been too indirect to come out and tell White people, the identifiable White people in my life, when they overstep. For me, Dear White People presents the question: What if I confronted the White people I know (and love) with the instances in which they make me feel angry, Othered?

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32 Things You Can Do to Turn Up On My Birthday

On this day, 32 years ago, my mama gave birth to a 3-lb, 11 oz brown dumpling of a baby girl. I came out full-term but I wasn’t fully baked. Doctors stuck me underneath an incubator for a few more days, and I have never quite given up my predilection for warmth and sunlight since. Because I’m so small, I celebrate my birthdays loudly…you will deal.

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